dis-en-gage; verb
/ disen' gaj/ - to separate or release (someone or something) to which they are attached or connected.
I overheard this word being used today in a conversation.
The man said to his wife,
"Honey, simply disengage yourself from her and engage yourself with the one whom you do get along with."
That word replayed in my head in slow motion, backwards and in fast forward all at once.
I was dissecting what it means to me,
Disengage: VERB TO HELP YOUR SANITY
"To detangle yourself from the web of any relationship that is either unfulfilling, toxic or disappointing. By doing so, you allow space to ENGAGE in the ones who do the opposite."
This will come as a relief for those of us who tend to over-focus on what we're not getting from someone in our lives, whether they're a sister, aunt, parent, friend, etc.
This doesn't mean that you should run away from uncomfortable relationships, and in fact, it means the opposite. By disengaging a bit, you are allowing yourself to take a step back from the magnification of the symptom of the issue at hand and refocus on the bigger picture - the nature of the problem itself.
If the problem is that you have given all that you can and the other will not even give you an inch,
then you must disengage and refocus.
Where do you place this focus upon?
Ask yourself which relationships ARE working well,
the ones that ARE making you feel good, and
love the crap out of those people.
Engage in what makes you feel best.
Tell people how much you appreciate them.
Place your focus in all these right places.
I can't get enough of this lately.
Maybe this is why I heard this word come out of his mouth in slow motion like this:
D i i i i s s s s e e e n n n g g g g a a a a g g g g e e e e
Cross-examination complete.
Engagement in progress.
~ L ~
